The First Letter: The “S” is Not Just for “Sex”

My “S” in SWERNY was initially for sex. When we came up with the practice of Find Your SWERNY, we did so with six themes in mind. The first theme is “The Intimate”–shorthand The I. The I is the extension of of self to others. As social animals, we not only want to be with […]

Going Forward from Here: How Six Specific Letters Correspond to General Themes

Now that you may have a general idea about what “Find Your SWERNY” might be about, we are very much looking forward to getting into the details. We’ve had spirited debates over what to call our approach. We considered “system,” “method,” even “program.” None of those seemed to encapsulate what it means to “find” something […]

Why Are You Waiting?

Oftentimes we avoid things, which we really should confront, by concocting simple excuses about how the time is “not right.” Well, those might not be the exact words we use to rationalize our need to delay, but they’re close. This is why many people choose events as the impetus to make a change. Here are […]

Easier Said Than Done

Part of what makes us human is our optimism. Even after years and years of failing at something (feel free to point to a yellow sticky note ^^^^), we persist in desiring to make a change as we are sure doing so will be the bring the satisfaction we so dearly seek. There’s just one […]

The Advice of Others

There are many well intended people who are happy to share their thoughts on what you should do about any dilemma, crisis, or situation you might find yourself in. In small amounts, the advice of others can be wonderfully helpful. You: “Should I do this or that?” Advice Giver: “You should do ‘this’ because ‘this’ has […]

Imagine What You Would Do If Only You Had The Time

“Life is short.” We hear this all the time. It’s a pithy little phrase that seems to provide not a whole lot of insight. How should we react when told, time and time again, that “life is short”? Reframing this axiom is the only way to really appreciate the hidden kernel of thought behind the […]

Why Adopt a Routine?

From the images above, you might conclude that “new things” look far more interesting and attractive than “routines.” That these new things bring all sorts of new opportunities for adventure and expanding one’s life experiences. You might conclude that the spiral on the right is “better” than the plain, old, boring circle on the left. […]